CHRIS THE AUTHOR
CHRIS A. MATTHEWS, LMFT-S, LCAS
Relationships, Leadership, and Accountability
Writing That Brings Structure, Clarity, and Accountability to Relationships
Chris writes for people who want more than theory, inspiration, or abstract advice. His work translates complex relational dynamics into clear frameworks that readers can actually apply to their marriages, leadership, and personal growth. Grounded in real clinical experience and lived practice, his writing is designed to challenge assumptions, sharpen self-awareness, and move readers toward intentional action rather than passive understanding.
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RELATIONSHIP BOOKS BY CHRIS
Chris works with audiences who are ready for more than inspiration. His work resonates most with people and organizations that value clarity, accountability, and practical forward movement. These audiences are not looking to be entertained or briefly motivated. They are looking for insight that leads to measurable change and tools they can actually use long after the event ends.
GREAT FOR couples in or considering counseling
Chris gives couples a clear, practical understanding of how couples counseling actually works and what it takes to be successful in the process. Written by a licensed marriage and family therapist, the book equips couples with the knowledge needed to choose the right therapist, set realistic expectations, and move toward meaningful change instead of wasted time.
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GREAT FOR married men, couples facing setbacks
Chris tells his powerful personal story of resilience, accountability, and growth, following Chris’s journey from setbacks and self-doubt to becoming a husband and leader his family could trust. The book reframes failure as a starting point and challenges the reader to take ownership of their own story to become a leader within the important relationships in their lives.
GREAT FOR men who prefer practical frameworks
This book gives Chris a fun way to help married men. He uses the language and strategy of American football to provide husbands with a clear and actionable framework for leading in their marriages. Blending relationship science with sports psychology, the book shows men how to communicate, resolve conflict, and build momentum as a unified team.
CHRIS INSPIRED HIS SON TO WRITE
Jonah Matthews became an author at just twelve years old, inspired by watching his father’s commitment to helping others through writing and counseling. Motivated to create something meaningful for kids his own age, Jonah set out to write a book that encourages young readers to become their best selves at home and among their peers.
Drawing from twenty-two real-life stories, Jonah shares practical lessons centered on three key traits he believes help kids build trust, communicate effectively, and navigate everyday situations with confidence. His book reflects a thoughtful, relatable voice and highlights how values like accountability, growth, and self-awareness can take root early.
It’s a reminder that the passion for helping others through words doesn’t stop with Chris, it’s being carried forward.
WORKBOOKS BY CHRIS
Chris’s workbooks are designed to help couples move from awareness to action with structure, clarity, and practical tools. Each workbook focuses on a core pillar of healthy relationships, including communication, understanding, emotional connection, and safety. Rather than offering abstract advice, these guided resources walk couples through real scenarios, exercises, and frameworks they can apply immediately to strengthen trust, reduce conflict, and build a more stable partnership over time.
GREAT FOR couples rebuilding trust, navigating boundaries, strengthening relational stability
Safety is the foundation of every healthy relationship. Maintaining Safety focuses on building and protecting relational security across trust, boundaries, finances, and personal habits. This work helps couples identify threats to safety, strengthen shared values, and address the deeper issues that undermine stability, including dishonesty, trauma, and substance use. Maintaining Safety is an excellent intro to the broader Relationship Counseling Tools compendium.
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A framework for building emotional and relational security
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Tools to protect boundaries, trust, and shared priorities
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Insight into how unresolved issues threaten long-term stability
GREAT FOR couples struggling with communication, recurring conflict, decision fatigue
When partners stop feeling heard, relationships begin to erode in predictable ways. Making Their Voice Count focuses on restoring connection by addressing the communication breakdowns that fuel conflict, indecision, and emotional distance. Chris helps couples identify the patterns that silence one another and replace defensiveness, distraction, assumption, and judgment with clarity and mutual understanding.
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Tools to help both partners feel heard and understood
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Strategies to reduce defensiveness and miscommunication
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Skills for navigating conflict without escalation
GREAT FOR couples navigating commitment issues, parenting tension, emotional disconnect
Finding Acceptance is designed to help couples move from frustration to understanding. This work guides partners through clarifying expectations, reducing mind-reading and blame, and learning how emotions influence decisions at home. By strengthening mutual understanding and emotional regulation, couples can rebuild commitment, satisfaction, and alignment as engaged partners and as present parents.
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Clear communication of needs and expectations
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Reduced blame and emotional misfires
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Greater emotional awareness in joint decision-making
GREAT FOR leadership programs, EQ training, workplace wellness initiatives
Feeling loved is not automatic. Neither is possessing the ability to identify when its absence is creating a presence in your relationship. Expressing Care helps couples develop practical ways to show love, respond to disappointment, and prevent patterns of disconnection or disrespect. Drawing from well-known love language concepts and deeper relational work, this workbook equips partners to move past resentment and reestablish care that feels genuine and consistent.
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Practical ways to express love and appreciation
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Tools for repairing disappointment and disconnection
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Strategies to move beyond resentment and emotional withdrawal
BRING CHRIS INTO YOUR HOME
Chris’s Relationship Counseling Tools online classes are designed to work in conjunction with the workbooks to translate complex relational concepts into clear, usable frameworks that couples and individuals can apply in real time, whether you are navigating conflict, rebuilding trust, or strengthening connection. The courses are practical, intentional, and grounded in the same leadership and accountability principles Chris uses in his counseling, coaching, and speaking work.
Rather than offering quick fixes or surface-level insight, these tools are built to support consistent growth and lasting change. They are meant to be used at home, revisited over time, and integrated into daily patterns and conversations. For those who want structure, clarity, and guidance without being in session, Relationship Counseling Tools offer a way to bring Chris’s approach directly into your relationship.
BOOK REVIEWS FOR CHRIS
DJ, NC, USA
"Chris’s ability to relate to people is excellent. Lots a good lessons-learned and terrific stories throughout. A must read for all relationships."
Jon O, Dalian, China
"A super fast read that gets straight to heart of how to be successful by peering through the lens of a young man becoming a leader in all things, not just in marriage! ... If you follow his lead, expect great things. Get it, read it, apply it!"
Sophie P, Ipswich, UK
"Marriage Underdogs is a raw and honest telling of one man’s perspective and experiences. And yet, as a woman, l found so many helpful pieces of advice and parallels within my own life."
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Chris A. Matthews is one of the most trusted and transformational marriage counselors in the country. With a 90% success rate helping couples heal from infidelity, rebuild emotional safety, and reignite their connection, he has earned a reputation as the go-to expert for relationships in crisis. As the founder and owner of both Behavioral Health Intervention Center, LLC and Relationship Counseling Group, PLLC, Chris leads two of North Carolina’s premier mental health and relationship wellness organizations, serving thousands of individuals, couples, and families each year. Chris’s expertise is backed not only by his clinical training but also by nearly two decades of personal experience. He has been happily married for 19 years and is a dedicated father of three, which gives him a deep, firsthand understanding of the joys and challenges that come with long-term commitment, parenting, and navigating real-life relationship dynamics. His groundbreaking work has been recognized with several prestigious awards, including the Charlotte-Mecklenburg Certified Minority Business Enterprise of the Year (2024) and the Presidential Merit Award from Pfeiffer University (2021). Chris holds multiple professional credentials: he is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), Licensed Clinical Addictions Specialist (LCAS), Certified Clinical Supervisor (CCS), Certified Employee Assistance Professional (CEAP®), and an Approved Supervisor with the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy (AAMFT). Chris’s insight and expertise have been featured in national outlets such as The New York Times, NPR Radio, and ABC News. He is also the best-selling author of Marriage Underdogs and Finding Your Relationship Fix. Known for his bold, compassionate, and results-driven style, Chris travels the world speaking, training, and leading international marriage retreats for couples who want more than just surface-level solutions. When your marriage is at a crossroads, you need more than advice—you need a proven guide with the heart and skill to walk you through the hard stuff. Investing in counseling with Chris A. Matthews means giving your relationship the best chance at real, lasting transformation. Because your love is worth fighting for—and with Chris, you’ll have a seasoned expert in your corner every step of the way.